I know – it’s not easy feeling positive when you are in a difficult legal entanglement. It’s natural to feel anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, sadness, anger, embarrassment, or even grief, rage or deep depression at times. I know – I’ve been there. Being in these kind of feelings can make it hard to get enough sleep, to think, speak, or write clearly, or make your best decisions. So getting through these and coming to a more positive attitude will help – I’m sure you understand that.…
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3 Tips to Attain a Better Legal Outcome by Overcoming Debilitating Legal Stress
Are you experiencing stress about not knowing how your case will end? Or worse, are you spending hours or days imagining and emotionally feeling the worst possible outcome? Research shows that as we imagine the worst case scenarios in our lives, 85% of the time the worst case does not happen. So I’d like to give you a few tips to be more at peace, happier in your life and more effective in your case. Accept the moment. Many of us resist, complain about, or…
Don’t Let Negative Inner Dialogue Destroy Your Law Case
When involved in any kind of conflict, our minds often create “mock dialogue”, either looking back at the past (“oh, I wish I would have said . . .”), the future (“next time I’m going to say . . .”). Especially when we are upset, the dialogue can take the form of argument, disrespect, or belittling others. Repeating this kind of dialogue can lead to anger, rage, judgment, blame, criticism, defensiveness or victimhood leak into and damage your case. If you engage in negative inner…
3 Tips to Come to Peace with Uncertainty in Your Law Case
Are you experiencing stress about not knowing how your case will end? Or worse, are you spending hours or days imagining and emotionally feeling the worst possible outcome? Research shows that as we imagine the worst case scenarios in our lives, 85% of the time the worst case does not happen. So I’d like to give you a few tips to be more at peace, happier in your life and more effective in your case. Accept the moment. Many of us resist, complain about, or…
How a client was able to come to peace while administering an estate and dealing with a combative relative
Kim’s dear brother died, and she was tasked with administering the estate, including taking care of his ashes after the cremation. Kim is a very kind person. Her nephew (her brother’s son) was having a very troubled time in his life, involving drugs and a lot of anger. He and his dad’s wife started to cause problems. They fought release of the ashes to Kim, even though she was going to fulfill her brother’s wishes. In Kim and my discussions, we decided to split the…
How a painful case settled on the day of trial, because of one sincere, kind statement
I was approached by a woman who was in the midst of a law case against a former friend and business partner. Ms. W’s current attorney was pretty high-stress, was not handling the case well, and this added to Ms. W’s stress. (It’s not a good sign when your own attorney increases your anxiety!). These former best friends had joined into a property development project, with the defendant investing several hundred thousand dollars. The project failed, each angrily blamed the other, and the lawsuit started.…
How treating an IRS agent as a friend disappeared the IRS debt
From my client Sierra: “I am a counselor. In 2002, I had a beautiful and profound outcome with an IRS tax issue, based on an “enlightened” approach suggested to me by my friend and Holistic Attorney Duane Light. When I first spoke to Duane, I was afraid of the IRS and what they might do to in response to my outstanding IRS debt. I didn’t know what to do and was especially afraid of calling them. I called Duane, and he gave me guidance to…